When I decided to start blogging, time and personal niche space where in my top 5.
However, soon enough I realized that I was coming short of like-minded human connections, and that as an introvert it is very difficult to convert online relationships into real physical ones. Because if I am out there in the real world, I would bump into another person at some point that shares bits of my temperament and eventually create connections or a friendship. But in my new life with the commodities of my home space... I could only bump in my furniture!!!
So from my little studio (aka my bedroom, aka my husband' studio, aka...) I had to proactively, mindfully start networking. Or in a better term, create relationships in my new creativity field.
Easy to say than to do, however, is all about getting started.
Apparently, we live in a world tailored for extroverted (and none of us can be extrovert all the time, I believe) and for introverts is hard to keep up, become easy to feel guilty, stressed and therefore become even less prone to connect out of the comfort zone (this is proven by researches).
So the game-changing step is to create connections within our own terms as introverts, instead of pushing us against our feelings. So we mindfully connect from a place of strength and not from a place of lack. And for your record introverts are about half the population. So.
I am a TED obsessed. Truly obsessed, I started during breastfeeding and never stopped to have my daily dose of T.TV.
So eventually I found a couple of talks that gave me inspiration (one is this). What they say is basically that instead of reaching out to people that we professionally admire (but we don't necessary feel deeply connected with), to FIRST find a kindred person. So simple, so genius. Find that person that makes feel safe and then, we can start from there. Another, and then another. And little by little, reach out to people that are out of our comfort zone, that can expand your horizons exactly because are different from us. I would add: give yourself the time to find your kindred fellows. Especially if you just changed country or if had a major life-changing event.
Furthermore, they say, when start meeting new people, we need to give ourselves permission to plan some down time after. Give ourselves permission to restore in our personal niece (totally the key element for me). Even time off social media I guess.
Give ourselves permission to leave a party sooner, permission to meet fewer people (have a referral number). But at the same time mindfully stretch boundaries making non-negotiable to see someone new every week/month/year (again, have a referral number). So I guess is all about feeling entitled to be introvert, stop feeling we should be otherwise and instead, start working with who we are from a place of strength and empowerment.
Hope this makes sense to you, in the way I put it down in my broken, lame English! :)
Now I stop the bla bla bla. Here is the recipe!
For this cake, you need a powerful food processor and 3 cake tins of 15cm (6")circa diameter, mixing bowls and a saucepan.
Preparation time 10 min
Cooking time 20 min
Baking time 30-40 min
For the cake:
200 g white unbleached flour
150 g wholemeal flour (or use only all white if you prefer)
80 g coconut sugar
1/4 tsp sea salt
1 Tbsp baking powder (I use doves farm organic)
2 Tbsp flax meal + 6 Tbsp water
100 ml extra virgin olive oil
250 ml almond or oat milk
dash of vanilla extract
1 lemon the zest only
1/2 lemon the juice only
For the Frosting
3 medium purple potatoes (400gr circa)
120 gr vegan white chocolate, melted
100 gr cashew nuts
3 medjool dates (you can add some xylitol to have a sweeter frosting )
1 lemon, juice and zest
a dash of vanilla
- Turn the oven on at 180°C. Grease the 3 tins with olive oil.
- Mix the 2 Tbsp of flax seeds with the 6 spoons of water in a small glass. Set aside for 5 minutes.
- In a large bowl mix all the dry ingredients together
- In a jar also mix the liquid ingredients together.
- Add the flax seeds to the liquid ingredients and incorporate with the dry, gently folding them together.
- Pass the batter into the tins.
Cook for 30-40 minutes. And set aside to cool
- Wash and peel the potatoes and cut into chunks.
- Steam for 15-20 minutes in a steamer or roast whole with the skin on for 40 min.
- Melt the chocolate.
- Add all the frosting ingredients to the food processor. Blend into a smooth cream.
When the cake is cool and the frosting creamy and smooth you can assemble your cake
For the full description go to my post :how to cover a layered cake with vegan frosting.